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She notes that a lot of people have a simple awareness of consent based on a model like ‘The Tea Video’, which compares initiating sexual activity to offering someone a cuppa. The 10 rules I’m about to explore don’t constitute a comprehensive guide by any means, but they’re all things that the pros wish more newbies knew sooner in their erotic journeys.Įleni Peitho is a clinical sexologist in training, and communications officer at Anatomie: a kink-positive event and educational space in London that’s also the UK’s only full-time school of ‘shibari’ – the art of Japanese rope bondage. It’s BDSM 101 – but to maximise not only how safe, but also how mutually satisfying your playtime is, there’s a lot more to reflect upon. I personally recommend using the Traffic Light System, where “Red” means “Stop immediately” “Orange” means “Slow down, ease up, and check in with me as I’m approaching the limits of what I’ll enjoy” and “Green” means “All good, carry on Master Biersack”.Įstablishing a safe word is usually one of the first things folks sexperimenting with kink learn about. The excellently obscure “Pineapple” is a popular safe word option, while a survey by online adult store Lovehoney revealed “sea cucumber”, “platypus” and “Hufflepuff” to be other suitably abstract choices. “No” is also a bad safe word, because if a partner asks, “Does that hurt?” or, “Do you want to stop?” and you reply, “No”, then you quickly end up more solidly in the Land Of Confusion than this Disturbed cover.

The chorus declares, ' So say the safe word / Tell me when to stop…'Īs the lyrics suggest, a safe word is a clear signal, prearranged between sexual partners, that brings an immediate end to whatever activity’s going on as soon as anyone says it.Ī safe word should be something you wouldn’t usually say during sex, so for me that rules out “Andy Biersack”.

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At Download Pilot, they tore up the stage into julienne slices finer than a tax dodger’s shredded bank statements with a set that included their single Safeword. Hailing from Leeds, which makes them “Loiners”, although I can’t imagine they ever expected to be as directly linked with people’s loins as this article is about to make them, post-hardcore Kerrang! cover stars Static Dress were tipped by Kerrang! Radio’s Sophie K to be one of the biggest bands of 2022. The following are insights that S&M gurus view as vital to having rewarding and responsible kinky experiences, but that they don’t feel tend to be as widely known or discussed by beginners as other BDSM basics such as having a safe word, which is where we uncover exactly… (Top tip: an umbrella’s actually a surprisingly useful bit of kit to take to a kink club, particularly if you’re sitting on the front row during a performance by extreme entertainer Master Dominic and don’t want to get hit by a flume of fluids and peeled boiled eggs ejected with force from his bottom.) This month, she lays out 10 things that BDSM experts think everyone should consider before they begin exploring bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism, masochism, or almost any other type of play coming under the broad, rubbery umbrella of kink.

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**Toots trumpet, blows bugle and parps on the rusty trombone** Announcing the second instalment of Sauce Material, the series where Kerrang!’s very own professional sexplorer, Alix Fox, riffs on a topic ever-so-tenuously connecting music and sex in order to boost your knowledge in the bedroom and teach you all manner of tantalising, titillating lessons about the birds, the bees, and the trousersnakes that you definitely didn’t hear in school.

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